"Occasionally, your husband's mind may be far too pre-occupied...[and] he mumbles one-word responses to your questions while perusing the newspaper or watching his favorite television program. Don't take it personally. Sometimes, saying, "I love you," means saying nothing at all."
My husband tries, he really does. He makes it a point to listen to me and others very attentively. He's a good listener--ask anyone who knows him.
There IS a line, though. I've crossed it many times. Mostly it's after he's put in 10-12 hours of hard physical labor, played with our son, fixed something around the house and is finally ready to fall asleep on a soft pillow. All of a sudden I'm awake and ready to talk! I'm chattering away in the dark and he's really trying to answer me.
Then, I hear the snore. I used to get upset and grumble to myself. He'd "start" awake and say, "I was listening, I was listening!" That was many years ago. It finally occurred to me that it wasn't Husband who was doing it wrong!
Now I've learned to "read" how his day has gone before filling him in on everything I've been thinking and doing. Sometimes that means that I don't get to share that day (or night). That's okay. There will come an opportunity. I've learned that it's definitely nicer to have his attention when I need to share. He is with me and I'm with him as we truly discuss things.
I've been working with my son on this, too. He's quite the talker and expects an audience when Daddy gets home. There's a way to do this right, though, and I'm training him to be aware of the "give and take" of conversation.
A sign of maturity (and of love) is knowing when to speak and when to wait--and being patient in the waiting.