I don't guess I have to worry about being controversial. Every one's comments have been along the same lines: Caring for someone, appreciating them, and making them feel special is more than a "duty." It's a pleasure, especially when that person is someone you CHOSE to marry!
Rule #5 is about hubby's coming home after work:
"When your husband walks through the front door, take his coat and guide him to his favorite easy chair. Offer him the evening newspaper, his slippers and a [drink] . . . If he appears fatigued or cranky, . . . a relaxing foot rub or shoulder massage may be in order."I read the magazines. I read the comments regarding the changing roles of women. Their general theme is that WE shouldn't have to do all this! WE work full-time, too (whether it be away from or in the home). Ain't nobody handing us our slippers and offering a back rub!!
Let's examine this. We may not be met with someone else providing these specific things, true. Are we, however, met with other evidences of our husbands' showing appreciation for us? Very often their expressions of pampering and concern are not shown in the same ways that we show ours. In fact, we may be in the habit of just expecting certain things to be done and not seeing them as demonstrations of "pampering."
You know what I mean--We hand over soft, warm slippers to show caring and he tells us he fixed the windshield wiper blades. Both are examples of caring.
If we truly want some of the same types of pampering we dish out, I have a proposal.
- Make sure your slippers "live" by the door you enter when you return from work.
- Have a pitcher of your favorite beverage chilling in the frig.
- UTILIZE that crockpot!
- Train the kids to give you a little uninterrupted quiet time. Give hugs and kisses and then assign 15 minutes worth of quiet activity for them while you "regroup."
- Sit DOWN while doing those 15 minutes and look at a magazine or a newspaper. Do NOT look around the house and see what's waiting for you to do.
- If you work from home, carve out some time for your own personal "winding down" before the next phase of the evening.
And, you can always just ask for that back rub!
How all this started.
Rule 1: A Wife's Duty
Rule 3: Put Your Best Face Forward
Rule 4: Cleanliness...It's Next to Godliness