Aug 12, 2010

How about a little bit of controversy?

I'm assuming it will be JUST a little bit LOL! I am NOT a confrontational-type person at all. I'd rather everyone be nice.

I want to do a series on this topic, though, because I want to challenge myself in this area.

My husband and I began dating in 1980. We got married in 1985. That's 25 years of marriage after 5 years of dating--the same person. We have stayed together through all sorts of ups and downs of life. We have experienced hatred toward what we stood for, from family, friends, and acquaintances. We have a child together with many miscarriages thrown in.

I feel like we have figured out what makes OUR marriage work for US. But, I also feel like there's always room for improvement!

I recently ordered a book through Bookmooch entitled, "The Good Wife Guide: 19 Rules for Keeping a Happy Husband." It is a collection of 19 tips from the Ladies' Homemaker Monthly which was popular at the turn of the last century.

The publisher put this together as a "Humorous gift for bridal showers . . . [to] the occasional 25th wedding anniversary where the celebration needs a little comical relief." I was a little bit offended by that description. I figured that it MUST be a book that encouraged family values in order to merit that blurb. So, I ordered it.

I've decided that I'm going to devote a post to each of several tips in the book. After I read it, I realized that the advice was NOT antiquated and that it would probably do a lot of good to apply it. I'm going to give it a try, anyway!

I suspect that my thoughts will not always line up with your thoughts on the subject. That's OK. I welcome your differing opinions as long as you're nice to me. If you're not nice, then I'll cry. (Just kidding!)

I'm going to explore these items for me and, perhaps, some might be useful to you as you walk out your relationship with the opposite sex.

The first "tip" will be up tomorrow. It might prove the most controversial of all, just by the title! We'll just do this and see how it goes.

Remember, I'm sensitive.

Related Posts:

Rule 1: A Wife's Duty
Rule 5: A Happy Homecoming
Rule 3: Put Your Best Face Forward
Rule 4: Cleanliness...It's Next to Godliness


Anonymous said...

Can't wait! I have a feeling this will be good.

One of the highlights of any of the "good wife" writings is to be good to your husband. I know, sounds like of lame and old fashioned, but honestly, why wouldn't you want to be good to your husband?

Have you ever noticed women that don't want to be good to their husbands are the most unhappy people ever? Sure, they can be all liberated and berate their husbands into letting them have everything their way, but what's they point if you are always unhappy?

Roxanne said...

Exactly what my point is going to be.

Sadly, many women stop seeing their husbands as people. They are kinder to strangers than to the man they CHOSE to marry.

My aunt was like that. She might just come up as an example--a bad one!

I hope this will be an encouraging and thought-provoking series!

Travels With Uncle Sam said...

This sounds great! Did you once say that you also were married 17 years before you had a child, like me?

Roxanne said...

T with US: Yes, indeed. 17 years. It was worth the wait, but sheesh!

DrJulieAnn said...

I've seen that book, too! I didn't order it because I was put off by the mocking tone of the description. I'm eager to read your take on what they say.

Roxanne said...

Dr. JulieAnn--The actual "rules" are straight from the original magazines and there is no other commentary by the publisher except what was on the back cover.

The pictures are lovely vintage shots.

It's a shame that it is presented as a "gag" gift.

I'm still a bit miffed that they said a 25th anniversary party needs "a little comical relief."

Way to honor people who have shown commitment and loyalty to one another for such a long time!

Travels With Uncle Sam said...

Yes, it was worth the wait, but what a shock to the system!!! LOL. Wouldn't have missed it for the world. We had another two years later. Now we're geezers and have a couple of young kids, 23 and 21. Being older parents was good in some ways. We have more perseverance. I think younger parents have more energy and patience. Guess it all works out.

Related Posts with Thumbnails